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Month: November 2016

Trap Game – Falling Down In Recovery

So many are tripped up by the trap game. Many teams are snake bit by the deadly trap game. Playing a game as the heavy favorite that is followed by a game against a rival or equally talented team. Do…

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Flipped On Its Drunken Head

My life has not just changed it has flipped on its drunken head. As I experience another Thanksgiving in sobriety I find myself in a very reflective state of mind. What I am grateful for has transformed as I see…

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Getting Out Of Line

Being humble means we embrace getting out of line. We remove the clutter from our minds as we step off the Hamster Wheel. By living one day at a time we stay in the present. But then how do we…

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The Present – A Gift That Keeps On Giving

The present is today. Feeling guilt from our past, worrying about our future, keeps us from missing the most important gift we are given and that is the present. The present is today. It is a gift with a guarantee…

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Hamster Wheel

We are on the hamster wheel.

When we have too many apps running on our cell phones our battery dies much quicker. Usually, they are apps that we never even use or know that are open. Our minds our very similar. If we have to many apps going we expend all our energy on things we seldom if ever even use. We run down, needlessly worrying over things that seldom make any difference in our day to day life. We become mind-full instead of mindful. We are on the hamster wheel, wearing ourselves out while going absolutely nowhere.

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Our selfish nature has blinded us to what really matters.

For most of us, what should seem logical becomes our illogical. Our perspective has gotten so shuffled that the things of importance to us actually have little real implication in the present. Our selfish nature has blinded us to what really matters. We must take the steps necessary to put our perspective in proper alignment. In many instances, if we do not, we may be given a extra large dose of humility to get our attention.

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..step out of our selfish desires and clean the clutter from our mind.

First, we have to remove the apps we seldom if ever use. That requires us to step out of our selfish desires and clean the clutter from our mind. Making space so that it can be filled with things that enable us to grow. We no longer need to spend our energy running through scenarios of the college football playoff. Stop trying to script the family conversation on that dreaded holiday get together. Rid your mind of all the thinking and thoughts that we have no real control over. Create space that can be filled with thoughts from a renewed perspective. Then get off the hamster wheel and just be.

But, we must fill the spaces with seeds of positive growth.

Second, we then begin to let renewed spaces of our minds become transformed. If we do not fill those spaces with things that help us to grow, the old rushes right back in. Some of us will turn to the spiritual realm to fill those spaces. Others, will turn to the physical with fitness and nutrition. There are those of us who will turn to professional counseling. We may choose to join support groups. Yet still we will find the change of perspective will also open our eyes to the precious gift of time. A gift we will begin to invest in family and relationships. But, we must fill the spaces with seeds of positive growth.

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What clutter can you clean from your mind so that you can become more mindful instead of mind-full.

Once we have gotten off the hamster wheel and transformed spaces in our mind we are then ready to move to the next phase. Learning to let go of control, practice acceptance, and take care of what we control in the present, one day at a time. To get ready for the next phase let us take a look on what exactly our mind is full of. My challenge to you is to look at what you can clean out from your mind to make space for growth. Is it taking time away from the big game to spend with your kids? Is it putting down your phone at a certain hour, giving up social media for a bit? What clutter can you clean from your mind so that you can become more mindful instead of mind-full.

 

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Pity Party Table For One

Each time I would raise a glass to my mouth a voice called out, “Pity party, table for one”. One of the hardest parties to leave as an alcoholic was the pity party. The party where we were the center…

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