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I Am Not Defined By The Booze

I am not defined by my past or my mistakes.

I am not defined by addiction

I am an alcoholic. However, I am not defined by the booze. I am not defined by my past or my mistakes. They are just a foundation from which I have begun to rebuild my life. I do have an addiction. I do believe that it is a disease. But just as someone who is diabetic is not defined by diabetes I am not defined by my alcoholism. I am a father, a son, a brother, an uncle, a nephew, a cousin. I am a man who is living life the best he can one day at a time. I am love, strength, hope, and acceptance. I AM KIP, not just another alcoholic.

How do you define yourself

The world defines us by a label placed upon us due to our past, present, or future. We cannot let our identity become lost in such a label of the world. It may be a piece of us, part of our history, but it is not who we are. It is not our failures that define us and it is also not our success. Today, we all to often allow what we have done become who we are. Because the world is a what have you done lately machine posted across the horizons of social media for all to see. It is not what people see on the surface but what lies underneath that is the heartbeat of who we really are. Do not let a label, a past, a disease, a mistake chain you to it for your identity.  They are all just stones that we use to build our house. We can choose to build whatever house we desire as long as we do one thing.  That one thing is to simply be Honest, Open, and Willing to look past the surface and seek the greatness that is at the core of every one of us.

Honest, Open, and Willing

There are many things to which people base their identity on. Things to which people use to build the definition of themselves.

  • Nationality
  • Race
  • Ethnicity
  • Spirituality
  • Values
  • Gender
  • Sexuality

Generally our identity is tied to a mixture of a few or all of the above. We must take a good hard look at ourselves and find out what mixture is ours. Whatever that mixture is for you becomes your definition, your identity. Embrace what that definition is. Celebrate it. Cultivate the identity that lies pulsating at the life center of your being. To claim that identity all we have to do is take action. It really is that simple. We become what we believe, what we do. Take action to put into practice the true pieces of you. As you begin to live true to who you are then you have the footing to begin to build a life beyond your wildest dreams.

I was afraid that I would not be good enough. That was my failure.

For me, my identity lies in my spirituality and my values. I was called to the ministry at a young age but turned my back on that calling because I was afraid I would not be good enough. I would not be what the world thought I should be. That was my failure. I let the world change my identity the definition that God had given me at birth. I knew my purpose yet fought it kicking and screaming until I was 46 years old. I knew I would never measure up to the world’s standards. My alcoholism has been the key that unlocked in me what I knew all along. That God gave me a gift and the approval I searched so desperately for I already had from the beginning. Alcoholism is a part of me, it is a disease that I carry. God has used it to open my eyes and bring me back to my true identity and purpose. I may have turned my back on God but he never turned His back on me.

I AM NOT DEFINED BY THE BOOZE. I am defined by my spirituality and values. My identity lies in the One who lives inside of me. I am not just another alcoholic. I am Kip Shubert! Wasted 2 Warrior!

What makes up your identity? What is your definition? Leave me a comment and share what makes you imperfectly perfect. I would love to hear from you. 

7 Comments

  1. Thanks Kip for posting this testimony of what defines your life. I too am suffering from the disease of alcoholism. As my recovery continues my life now is defined with love for others and helping others that begin their journey in recovery. Life is good for me as long as I don’t pick up that drink. Hope to see you in May.

    • Isnt it ironic in a sense that in our addiction we could see nothing but ourselves and in our recovery everything out of self is the key. Will see ya in May Pat.

      • I have been going into our Treatment Center with the Missouri Department of Corrections located here in Maryville. Would it be okay with you if I print a copy of your post and share with the Offenders at the next meeting? I feel it would be beneficial to them as they will begin being placed back in to society when they are Paroled, which is averaged after 6 months to a year when they reach this facility. Thank you for your consideration. Pat

        • Absolutely Pat. Use anything you want if you think it will help anyone at all. Like you said, its why we do what we do….part of our values now.

  2. Freedom from drugs and alcohol has turned me into so many things. A writer, a teacher, a husband, a father. The list goes on and continues today. I really hope my professional identity will one day be “a writer.” Although I’m not going to hold my breath. I am going to keep going to meetings, and do everything I can to stay sober. So I can keep meeting inspiring people like you!

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