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We Dont Have to Die By Chris Freeman

From the book, “Alcoholics Anonymous” :

” Your job now is to be at the place where you may be of maximum helpfulness to others, so never hesitate to go anywhere if you can be helpful. You should not hesitate to visit the most sordid spot on earth on such an errand. Keep on the firing line of life with these motives and God will keep you unharmed”.

Some days are difficult when your in the recovery business.

Watching alcoholism and drug addiction happen right in front of your eyes. I am so much reminded of my own powerlessness when I was stuck in the grips of addiction and alcoholism.

Time and time and time again, over and over, people in recovery would reach out to me, offering their assistance and I would just end up, once again, drunk and high. My family, my friends, my ex’s and past girlfriends, how they must have felt, seeing me destroy myself, along with their hopes and dreams for me.

I am best described on page 21 in the Big Book –

Here are just a few characteristics:

1. seldom mildly intoxicated. ——-check——
2. does absurd, incredible things,tragic things while drinking.——-check——
3. dangerously disgusting and anti-social.—-check——
4. incredibly dishonest and selfish. —-check——
5. senseless.  —-check——
6. a real Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.       ——-check——

          CHECKMATE !!!!!!!!!!


These are just a few of the attributes that make up my personality as a active alcoholic and drug addict. The crazy part of it all is that in my denial, I could not connect these to my addiction.

How does one tell if they are suffering from addiction – besides all the regular stuff like being arrested, hospitalized, beat down, thrown away, pushed off, well you get it !

Here is the best barometer I know, we call them “THE BEDEVILMENT’S” (page 52, BB)

1. We were having trouble with personal relationships
2. We couldn’t control our emotional natures
3. We were a prey to misery and depression
4. We couldn’t make a living
5. We had a feeling of uselessness
6. We were full of fear
7. We were unhappy
8. We couldn’t seem to be of real help to other people

This would occur when I was clean and sober………………………………..

It was all about circumstances and me being victimized by what others where doing to me.

Wow, just writing this brings me to a state of –           What was I thinking!!!!!

Today, life is so much different and I am no longer a slave to fear, anger, resentment, guilt, shame and such. No longer does each day bring dread and terror.

Today I live on the firing line of life in recovery, standing ready to help 24/7/365.

We are the real soldiers, we are the one’s who are dying needlessly.

One by one in the darkness alone and lost without any hope!

Our families standing behind the front lines – watching us perish, helpless to stop their sons, daughters, mums and dad, brothers, sisters, aunts and uncles, cousins and nephews succumb to addictions death.

We are the solution in the war on drugs, in the trenches with the sick and suffering, bringing hope to those who can not see past the pain and terror of their addiction.

If you are recovered from alcoholism and/or drug addiction, it is your duty and obligation to reach out and be available for the next man or woman seeking help!

Bill Wilson, the co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, was in Towns Hospital, detoxing for the third time, with his life on a string. He had been pronounced incurable!

This is what he states in his story concerning this point………………………………….

Page 14, Alcoholics Anonymous, Chapter One – Bill’s Story

“While I lay in the hospital the thought came that there were thousands of hopeless alcoholics who might be glad to have what had been so freely given me. Perhaps I could help some of them. They in turn might work with others”.

He goes on……………….

“For if an alcoholic failed to perfect and enlarge his spiritual life through work and self-sacrifice to others, he could not survive the certain trials and low spots ahead. If he did not work, he would surely drink again, and if he drank, he would surely die. Then faith would be dead indeed. With us it is just like that”.

This concept is reiterated again later in the book on page 124 in the chapter “The Family Afterward”. It states –

“Showing others who suffer how we were given help is the very thing that makes life seem so worth while to us now. Cling to the thought that, in God’s hands, the dark past is the greatest possession you have – the key to life and happiness for others. With it you can avert death and misery for them”.

And in conclusion to this point, the first paragraph in the chapter “Working with Others”, it clearly defines and describes an absolute guarantee for recovery!

“PRACTICAL EXPERIENCE shows that nothing will so much insure immunity from drinking as intensive work with other alcoholics.
It works when all other activities fail. This is our twelfth suggestion:
Carry this message to other alcoholics!

Bill Wilson makes it very clear as to the proven fact that when we help other we I turn receive the gift of continued recovery. If this is something you have failed to do them why not give it a shot—————-

If you do not know how to help that’s OK, you don’t need to know, all you really need is the willingness to try.

The man that brought the solution to Bill, Ebby Thacher, only had but a few months of sobriety when he met with Bill.

I hope not to disturb some of you, and if I have offended you, I’m sorry but it’s……….

ONLY A MATTER OF LIFE AND DEATH………………..YOU CHOOSE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you for your time, it’s important how we use it!

Chris – PHRC available always – 24/7/365 [email protected]



  1. Thanks Chris for being a guest blogger. Great read on clarifying what our real purpose in recovery is. Awesome stuff.

  2. This is the encouragement I needed today. I Sometimes feel so inadequate in my ability to effectively share what I know, but share, I must.

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